so. episode two.

guy from work likes me. asked me out five nights in a row. technically six. we went out two nights in a row. i like him. i think he's nice, i think he's considerate, i think he has a good value system. i think he's cute. he has good manners. he values his family. all good things.

TUES: our first 'date' was meeting for drinks to watch a hockey game. we did NOT watch the game. we talked for about two and a half hours and then he announced that his co-host (he deejays at the station where i work) was having a karaoke birthday party at a bar about a mile away. so we drove over to the other bar in my car. i started drinking because it was clear that i was going to have to karaoke. (He's also a musician, so it wasn't a stretch for him to sing.)

We got to karaoke. We're socially lubricated. We're standing close, it's obviously a date gone well. We leave, a six pack later (between us) and make out in my car. He act silly on the ride back to his car. We both go home alone.

WED: We see each other briefly at the studio the next day. He said he'll call me and he does. Late the following night he asked me out for coffee, I was exhausted and it was too late but I said yes anyway.

BAD IDEA!!!

Date 2 (coffee date) is only slightly better than miserable. We're both tired. We're both trying to eek a date out in under an hour. He kisses me near the mouth and we head in separate directions.

Number of texts from him drastically drop. We see each other two days later on Friday. Things are awkward, I'm near tears. He was bandit text messaging me less than a week ago, now we're weird. I decide to drop all communication til Wed, and to avoid the studio when I know he's going to be there so that he'll miss me. He can't miss me if I'm always around, right?

Sat & Sun no contact. No problem.

Mon rolls around and he texts me to ask about my weekend. He responds to a survey that I put on Myspace. I respond, we have civil communication. I try to flirt with him, doesnt seem to have much of an impact… I book a pretty great interview for him, he seems unimpressed.

Tues, we talk shop a little bit about some of his upcoming booking. I'm a little more obvious with my flirting. He says he "likes it" but things are still awkward. Really late I send him some pretty helpful booking info. He sends genuine thanks and says I'm amazing more than once.

But he still hasn't asked me out.

So today I asked him to come to my downstairs neighbor's memorial day party. He writes back pretty quickly and says he's working early that day, but that he'll probably swing by later.

So I guess the question is… what the hell do I do? I could see him in the studio on Friday, or I could avoid him. I'm thinking avoid. I don't want things to go bad. At least at the party I'll have a little alcohol in me and will be easier to approach (I tense up and act weird sometimes).

I just find that I have a lot of things I want to ask him about - like how this went, or what he thinks of whatever, or to ask him what's going on… blah, blah, blah. AND HE WAS THE ONE THAT WAS SUPPOSED TO LIKE ME.

I'm a giant retard.

Advice please.

love,
mox

Just freakin' ask him what's going on.  He's probably feeling the same awkward feelings you are.  What's the worst that could happen?  Things don't work out and you end up becoming my love slave?

Damn Richard, you're one lucky man.

Well, Mox - first of all, I totally agree with Richard.  Just be yourself, and if he can't truly see how amazing you are, then he's a dumbass and should be sold for science experiments. 

Also, it totally isn't your fault if he showed interest in the beginning and suddenly is acting like he doesn't care.  That's totally his trip, and there may be something else going on with him. 

I've confronted a guy once about his feelings towards me and was glad that I did. It was harder than hell, but after that, the awkwardness was gone.

The way I see it, we're not teenagers anymore. Go ask him and see what the hell his issue is. If he's not interested anymore, rip off his balls and serve them to Richard as an appetizer, before you two go off and you become his love slave. :P

Yeah…what glory said!

Seriously…I have to agree…just talk to him.  It is always better than wondering.

Okay. Y'all are making me feel like a retard. I'll talk to him. I just don't know when. I mean, we've only really had a date and a half and I don't want to talk to him in the studio.

Do you set up an appointment? Call? Ask him to get together?

I've already asked him to come to my neighbors Memorial Day party and he said he'll probably be able to make it (he's got a job announcing a minor league baseball game in the suburbs and his father just came out of a bypass surgery so he's going to check to make sure his family isn't doing anything)...

But I don't want to be drunk or have the talk int he middle of a bunch of people.

So, ask him out for drinks.  Just tell him that you know that he's busy..but you just wnat to talk about something.  HE might think that it's work related…then ask him.

But get him out and talk to the dude.

OR, I'll come up to visit and slobber monkey all over you.

Or don't.

definitely talk to him.

this is recent experience talking.

well i will talk to him. eventually. there just hasn't been a good time.

so a week ago when we went out the first time, i was showing him the contents of my purse and i wound up giving him a watermelon dumdum that we found inside. he was pretty excited about it and said that no girl had ever given him one before. not sure why it was such a big deal, but he literally ate it in front of me at the bar and thanked me more than once.

so, since i'd asked him on wed if he wanted to go to the memorial day party, he responded quickly that night to say that he'd probably make it. i didn't write back… just figured i'd give him my address later on in the week.

so today when i saw him briefly at work and i gave him an envelope with the instructions to my house and a watermelon sucker inside. based on his reaction, i think it was the right move. he thanked me, hugged me, found me later to hug me, thanked me again… i think that's a good reaction?

now the only problem is that i've let it slip to some other people at the station that i'm having a party. so now… dammit. i dont' know. i'll be a little tipsy by the time he shows up, so it probably won't matter. plus it's my house and the party's in the backyard. i can smuggle him inside if i need to.

Any updates, Mox? 

he didn't come to the party because he was tired. he's the PA announcer for a minor league team in a suburb about an hour and a half away and they've had home games for about seven days straight, so he's been admittedly busy.

anyway, i was his cohost on the show yesterday and that went well, then afterwards i was just going to say bye quickly and leave - but he asked me to wait for him, took forever getting ready, and then when he finally was done, just apologized (again) for not coming to the party. didn't accept my offer to drive him to the train station or drop him at a restaurant nearby.

so i texted him and asked him what was up, that we had one great date, one crappy date, and that it had been two week's and basically, what's up? and he said texted back and said he likes me, he's bogged down at work, he hasn't been thinking about it, and he doesn't want me to think anything bad. so i texted back (texts are so stupid) and said not to worry, i'll let him get back to me when he's unbogged.

his last game is today, but i've got plans tonight and plans tomorrow night (i invited a different guy to go to a concert with me, but i also invited 3 girl friends - dumb move!). he plays a show on saturday, but he's yet to invite me to that, then i leave town for LA on wed.

it's basically in the back of my mind. kinda writing him off until he pops back up - if he pops back up.

Good attitude, it sounds like.  *hugs* 

And if he's not into you enough to be "unbogged" already, he's not nearly as smart as he was to be interested in you in the first place. You're a huge catch. 

ditto.