alright, the last couple months I have been on and off sleeping with one of my friends…. it was supposed to be your typical friends with benefits relationship…..

I would like to say it was me that is starting to get more attached…. it would make it much easier to deal with…. but alas, it isn't… he is starting to say things to people, and do things with me, that is starting to get into that relationship territory…. it has all started in the last couple days….

no, it isn't in my head…. other people are noticing it and saying it to *me*....

I am still sooo not there…. and, to be completely honest, don't *ever* seeing myself getting there….

I am not sure exactly what I am looking for in terms of advice, I just know I have never been in this situation before and I have *no* idea waht to do….

I think you just need to talk to him and get the straight scoop.  If he wants more than you can give, you may have to steer things in the right direction.  I would definitely talk to him about all of this.

I agree…you gotta talk to him babe. 

And if he's got feelings, I'm afraid the sex will probably have to stop.  To continue will only make things worse, I'd imagine. 

*sigh* yeah, that's what I was afraid of, on all fronts, LOL….. I think part of this post yesterday morning was I was just tweaking out…. I am prolly going to talk to him in the next day or two, I just want a couple days to process and get my wording togther so I don't blunder…. and so I can kinda objectively observe with all this new info (friday night I was told a lot of stuff from one of his confidants and that is what sorta spurred this post into exsistence…..

I will keep you all posted though.

I thought you were still a virgin, kiddo ?

no, that ceased to exsist about 4 months ago….. and this situation ceased to exsist (my doing) about 3 weeks ago…..

Wow, tj - that must have been a hard thing to do…

Peg, it wasn't fun, but it was easier than anticipated…. to keep it as simple as possible, the situation was a cluster fuck and I needed to get out of it for my own mental well being… the guy was starting to get toxic…. amazingly enough, it wasn't whether or not he was getting attached that caused me to cut everything off but it was still for the best….. oy, was it for the best.