bought my boyfriend tickets to the bears game on thursday night. it was supposed to be a big secret plan - he thought he was coming into the city to see my puppy class, but really i was just making sure he kept his night free. i was going to have his friend meet us the train station and surprise him with the tickets.

but his friend convinced me to tell him in advance so that he would be prepared and could plan to go tailgating before the game, and go into work late the next day.

so i did tell him, over the phone since it's really snowy out…

and he's upset.

because he doesn't like it when people give him things.

talk about taking the wind out of my sails.

it was supposed to be an awesome surprise that would make him really happy and now i'm disappointed and he's upset and his friend is the only one ecstatic, and now he won't even have a good time because k's grumpy about it.

Easy. Make him pay for the ticket. ;-)

Mox, I wouldn't worry about it too much.  With the weather, he kinda had to know so he could be dressed appropriately.

He'll get over it.  If he doesn't, tell him to.  I bet once he goes to the game…it will be ok.

I'd be disappointed, too…. the best part about surprising someone is getting a good reaction from them.  If that part gets wrecked, well then the whole thing just feels like it goes to shit. 

Sorry, Mox.  *hug*  Let us know how the game goes. I'm sure that Darlene is right and he will enjoy it.

I'm sure he'll change his tune once he's actually there.  Football game with a cute girl…doesn't get much better than that.

Well, I like it when people give me things. So just staring buying stuff and sending it to me. He'll be happy because you aren't giving him stuff, I'll be happy because I'm getting stuff, and you'll be happy because I'll send you pics of the joyous expression on my face as I open my gifts.

I really think its the best solution for everyone.

In my experience when someone say's that to you after you have done something so nice; first of all they are rude, but secondly they are feeling obligated to go and maybe they don't feel the same way about you as you do them. I don't know your situation but i've had this totally happen to me and it didn't end well, belive me. You only don't want to receive gifts from someone that you don't like all that much because then you feel obligated to extend the kindness back and that just gets odd for people. Start looking for signs and don't get blindsided, that's all i'm saying!

jen: you hit the nail on the head. very deflated.

i think it's blown over. part of his upset was that i was sending his friend with him. he thought if i bought the tickets then i should at least go with him. in any case, i think he feels worse about being a bad reactor than he does about me spending money on him.

sean, that sounds like a pretty good deal. i'll see what i can do.

missy, point taken, thanks.

I just have two words to say…..

GO BEARS!

I want them to win the NFC NORSE…anyone but those fucking purple puke pussy vikings.

Oh…sorry.

Are you going now?

Always the opportunity for stadium sex.

You should call him on it. I mean, don't be bitchy or anything. Just let him know you were expecting a different reaction, and you're concerned about the one you got. Give him a chance to apologize. These kinds of things can add up quick in a relationship, no matter how good it starts out.

While I can kind of understand his reaction in a way -- I can remember a time in my life when very nice gifts made me antsy -- it's certainly no reason to be pissy about it.